Goals

One of the most beneficial things that I have started to do was set measurable goals. The benefits of setting goals after breaking up are limitless. In a time when your self worth is down, having measurable goals can greatly increase your feeling of self worth.



For example, I started running. Behind my house I have a neighborhood still being developed, and there is a long dirt road that goes up a hill that correlates with a series of power lines. Each day, especially if I am particularly upset or if I feel overburdened and stressed out, I go for a run.

Now, where setting goals ties into this is that it gives this running focus. Overall, by the end of summer I want to be able to run all the way up the hill. However, until then I have small measurable goals. The power line poles allow me to mark how far I go each time I run. If i ran to the 4th power line pole from the base of the hill one day, the next day I would try to reach the 5th, or maybe I would try to run to the 4th power line faster.

By setting such measurable goals, I regain a sense of direction and focus in my life. Even when nothing is going right, and I don't want to get out of bed, I can merely go look in the mirror and say, I am running for the 6th power line pole today.

However, there is a slight catch. When choosing goals, I would stay away from activities that you did with your ex. For example, if you went running every morning with her, I would probably not advise running as a goal to help distract you.

Here are some good ideas for goals.

1. running (and other forms of exercise) I will expand on this soon.

2. relearning or learning a musical instrument.

3. painting/remodeling a room

4. losing x amount of weight

5. writing a blog :D